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Oct. 4th, 2000 | 01:58 am

decembertyger brought up the issue of "guys saying a girl is easy if she gives it up quickly, but bitching at other times if she doesnt"... i posted a response to her entry... and i will post something similar here...

for me, the issue is somewhat mixed. i have had moments when i wanted sex... be it the first date or be it the 50th date, it didnt matter to me. i also have times when the girl is definitely interested in having sex with me, but i want to wait. so, it all depends on the mood, on what the guy really wants out of the situation, and also what he thinks of the girl.

if he thinks she is easy before he asks her out, then he will be expecting sex. if he thinks she is a prude, then he wont be. if he thinks she is normal, then he probably wont start expecting it until a week or so has gone by... but again that is all dependent on the guy. do note that a week is a "short" time period in some cases, but that depends on your age as well. in college, a week is about average. in later times, a week may be quite short. before college, a week might be very quick. it also depends on how often you see that person during that week.

personally, i dont have sex with any girl until i am in a relationship with them (at least now i dont)... and once i am in the relationship... it can happen at any time. typically i will get to know a girl for a few weeks before i think about a relationship with her. if we are in a relationship, then it is natural progression to move to sex, not necessarily right away.. but within the first few weeks typically. it all depends on where both people are in their lives and on the situations that are between them.

that make any sense? i could ramble on more...

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Wendi

hmmm

from: daydream
date: Oct. 4th, 2000 09:35 am (UTC)
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Actually that makes perfect sense... I just wish some people would understand the concept of "no" and accept that as face value and NOT try to pressure people into doing thingsthey don't want to.. it's a guilt trip. nobody likes that LOL.. I prefer to be in a relationship as well to have sex... but there are the very rare occasions where even I just lust way too much and give in LOL. (that has only happened once though)

BTW... even if a girl OR a guy give it up way too early.. they STILL have the right to say no. I have, and i probably always will.. nobody should have to feel obligated to have sex with someone because their partner wants to. I've done that.. it made me feel incredibly dirty.. but i didn't feel like a slut. (For the record I have only had sex with two guys and one girl) I felt guilty for giving in under pressure. but hey.. I have learned from the experiance and trust me.. it's NEVER going to happen again untill I feel secure enough to give it up.. so basically.. when i feel comfy enough to strut around naked in front of someone. I need to know that they really do care about me, and don't care WHAT I look like naked (My ex used to tell me i needed to lose weight because I have stretch marks.. what a jackass)

Okay.. errmmm.. i am rambling now.. LOL sorry :)

*hugs!!!!!!!*

Wendi :)

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Tim

Re: hmmm

from: visions
date: Oct. 4th, 2000 10:40 am (UTC)
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hehe.. a girl eh? fun ;)

i agree with you 100% though, just because someone gives it up, does not mean that they have to continue doing so. i also agree with not pressuring and not giving in just because your partner wants to. that is just lame to have sex because they want to and not because you both want to.

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Wendi

Re: hmmm

from: daydream
date: Oct. 4th, 2000 08:43 pm (UTC)
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wonderful a guy who does understand.. hmm wait eik err.. i meant yay! a somewhat universal opinion!!!!! *does the happy dance* woo hoo!!!!!

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Tim

Re: hmmm

from: visions
date: Oct. 4th, 2000 10:29 pm (UTC)
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haha. what is this mysterious happy dance that i keep hearing about?

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Wendi

Re: hmmm

from: daydream
date: Oct. 4th, 2000 11:45 pm (UTC)
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err I dunno *giggles and smiles8 it shall remain a mystery haha! :P

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Re: hmmm

from: midnightwriter
date: Oct. 5th, 2000 06:54 am (UTC)
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Right on! Even if you are in a relationship, you can still say no! No one owns anyone in our society unless of course you are into that kind of kinky roleplay stuff. And even then you can say no.

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Re: hmmm

from: raine
date: Oct. 11th, 2000 11:11 pm (UTC)
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UGH GOD DAMN STRETCH MARKS I WANNA scream cause of them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
BET i got more than you :P lol that is sooo not a funny/good thing!

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maggie

/c:

from: drsuessrox
date: Oct. 4th, 2000 10:47 am (UTC)
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*sigh* I miss you.

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Tim

Re: /c:

from: visions
date: Oct. 4th, 2000 10:55 am (UTC)
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aww. *hug*

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