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love is but a life lived with regret

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Jul. 17th, 2005 | 10:27 pm

This is my statement of the day. How do you take it? What does it mean to you?

I want a debate. Engage me. Take me to places I cannot go on my own.

Let us all understand my own words together. I want to hear your take.

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SuperStar

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from: bench
date: Jul. 18th, 2005 03:49 am (UTC)
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love does not always end bad. even though things become tough and the relationship turns sour, you can always learn something from it.

i believe that failure is part of life. we cannot possibly know what is good if we do not experience the bad. therefore we just take in all of these and let it teach us lessons about life. that is why, most if not all people are innately resilient. we suffer, we cry, we get depressed yet somehow we are still able to survive and come out of our misery.

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Tim

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from: visions
date: Jul. 18th, 2005 03:58 am (UTC)
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but is love quantifiable? is love something you can truly know without losing it? is love anything if there is no choice against it?

can a step forward ever be taken without something to leave behind?

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Nikki

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from: nikkiw
date: Jul. 18th, 2005 06:46 am (UTC)
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I don't believe the "life LIVED" part is correct. I think if one were living a life based in regret, one would do their best to do whatever they can to get out of it. I think in general (at the risk of sounding truly hedonistic), we try our best to make ourselves and those around us happy. In doing so, we gravitate toward that which makes us happy, or makes us feel good. If you're living in regret, one's motive would be to move away from the thing that makes you unhappy.

I think that the regret part of love comes at the end. If you are in love with someone and it ends before when you believe that end should come, the emotion becomes regret in that you may think that you wasted your time. The emotion, depending on your personal mental state, may also be depression in that you may find fault with yourself for the relationship not lasting.

I can honestly say, however, that I have never experienced true love so I can't say whether or not this is really a true statement. I'm being purely idealistic. I would never want to think that "love" as an entity within itself, would bring regret into the relationship. I don't really know though.

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Tim

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from: visions
date: Jul. 18th, 2005 01:54 pm (UTC)
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you say you have never experienced true love... how do you know?

what i am proposing is that in order to have love, you must have regret. fundamentally, this may be flawed... but hear me out.

if i never lose my love, will i ever know that i truly loved her?

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Nikki

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from: nikkiw
date: Jul. 18th, 2005 03:49 pm (UTC)
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I know because I've never been in a situation to experience true love, outside of loving my friends and family of course. Gotta date someone for longer than a month to get to know them well enough to know whether or not you love them.

I don't think anyone knows what true love feels like, even if they do lose it!! It's an emotion, something we are all subjective about. Our ideas of what love is all about is completely biased purely based on experience so my "love" may feel different than your "love." I think that even without regret, you can experience what you feel is love.

In your view, if you never lose your love, you may never know you truly loved her, but what does it matter? The emotion you're experiencing is some form of love, whether it's just a little bit or all out true love. if you don't lose it, you may never know whether or not it was objectively true, but it wouldn't matter because you're still experiencing that emotion for that person. I think, if that's the case, I would much rather experience that than go through the heartache or angriness of figuring out it really was or was not true love.

Also, do you think that true love is something you'll never get over? Like if you love someone and then lose them in a car accident or some equally horrible tragedy, do you think you can truly move on if it was true love?

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from: suzook242
date: Jul. 18th, 2005 02:47 pm (UTC)
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i believe that humans are incapable of experiencing love in its purest incarnation. true love is completely unconditional and unwavering ... show me someone who is capable of that, and i'll show you a liar.

at best we can only approximate love, and a close approximation can be intoxicating - and dangerous.

perhaps the regret stems not from love lost, but from the fact that love can never truly be attained.

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Tim

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from: visions
date: Jul. 19th, 2005 05:14 am (UTC)
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i am a hopeless romantic. plus, i like a challenge.

love... bring it on!

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Naceena Salteris

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from: salteris
date: Jul. 18th, 2005 05:30 pm (UTC)
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love shouldn't have regret because if there is regret then there is something missing. the loss of love can cause some to go crazy, others can move on and try and figure out what it is that went wrong. in many cases where love is claimed and then lost its is just that one person falls out of love.

following ones heart, i believe, is the only way to really know that you are in love. you don't think you have something then turn around and say you don't. in following your heart and your gut, i truely believe you can not go wrong. i have lost two great loves, one being the love of my parents and then the love that i put my all into. yes in putting your all, heart and soul, you risk more, but real love is worth the risk.

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Tim

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from: visions
date: Jul. 19th, 2005 05:18 am (UTC)
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i agree. however, playing devils advocate.. how can we know what love is until we experience it? and how can we know we experienced it, until we have lost it?

now, flip side... i will argue with myself. love is what it is. we dont need to quantify it.

now your turn. go. :)

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miss paranoia

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from: punkchic1
date: Jul. 22nd, 2005 01:20 am (UTC)
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i am quite a confused girl at this point because of the issues im dealing with on the subject of love. i do however believe that the statement above is actually completely false. i think the absence of love is but a life lived with regret. every person ive ever been in love with has helped me grow into a stronger person, and with out that love, i would be a metaphorical fetus. true regret that you may never let go of lies within the lifestyle of not pursuing your love and going day by day thinking of the "what ifs." your pain will heal and turn into learning experience, rather than regret.

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Tim

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from: visions
date: Jul. 26th, 2005 06:59 pm (UTC)
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that is true, however... if you persue love and it doesnt work out.. you still have "what ifs"

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from: peachskitty1
date: Jul. 26th, 2005 04:15 pm (UTC)
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Love is me. Love is you. Love is me loving you, enjoying every moment we are together so much that I think I am to explode... and all of the moments we are apart, feel each like a million eons...

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Tim

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from: visions
date: Jul. 26th, 2005 06:59 pm (UTC)
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aww. to infinity! :)

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from: peachskitty1
date: Jul. 26th, 2005 08:30 pm (UTC)
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here is my reply.....

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this, that, and the other

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from: perforation
date: Aug. 2nd, 2005 06:22 am (UTC)
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love is a farce, but you knew i thought this. love is just a word. love is different to everyone. defined.
it just goes to show that none of it makes a difference. we're all just misunderstanding each other in the end- misinterpreting each other. the best idea is to find the person who misinterprets you the most... so much so that questions arent asked and youre led into a false sense of security...thinking the other understands you best.

of course...im just jaded.

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